Forming Bonds Beyond Borders: Finding Allies in a Foreign Country
As soon as I moved to Mexico City, I had to think about new friendships and how on earth I would make them happen. Forging friendships wouldn’t be easy without a workplace to go to every day. The task at hand that seemed so simple felt so daunting and intimidating. Although I’m a friendly, outgoing person that wouldn’t help me at all in this situation. Without the ability to competently speak the language with locals, what was I to do?
If you are anticipating moving abroad, first of all, what a thrilling adventure that awaits you! Undoubtedly, at some point in your journey, the prospect of creating new bonds will arise to enhance your experience. Doing so is highly valuable for several reasons, with a significant one being the greater joy of sharing mutual experiences with like-minded individuals. As a matter of fact, you will likely find that the folks that you meet abroad are more of your kin than the ones you left behind.
Think of what type of person would move to the same environment and attend the same activities that you are choosing. Forming a new tribe can help you learn about the culture and language of the country and gain insight into local customs and traditions. It can also provide a sense of community and belonging, turning your new home into an enjoyable haven ripe with possibilities!
To truly find your tribe, it is essential for you to proactively venture outside of your comfort zone and place yourself in new and unfamiliar territories. Don’t let momentary shyness stop you from meeting new people and making lasting connections. Here are some tips to help you do just that:
START WITH EXPATS. Your first step might be to connect with other expats. Until you’re fluent in the language or culture, local expats can give you the low down from their perspective and prevent you from making cultural faux pas. Look for local networking events to meet like-minded people and make connections. Try meetup.com and Facebook groups.
LEARN THE LANGUAGE. Upon relocating to a country where a different language is spoken, I strongly advise immersing yourself in the language. Although the locals in your new country may warmly embrace and exhibit friendliness towards foreigners, establishing a meaningful connection relies on the ability to engage in conversation and foster relatability. Locals know this, so until you speak the language, locals will hesitate to connect with you.
Joining language classes is a great way to make a practice buddy and learn a bit more about your city or town. Seek out language exchanges in your area as another way to kill two birds with one stone. There are also tons of online programs to take advantage of.
If it is within your means, I highly encourage you to dedicate ample time in advance to acquire a foundational understanding of the language before your move. Trust me, you'll be so glad you did.
TAKE UP A HOBBY. Consider joining clubs or classes or pursuing new hobbies that pique your interest in the local area. This approach presents an excellent opportunity to mingle with like-minded individual to forge meaningful relationships over established shared activities as a means of socializing .
JOIN WHATSAPP GROUPS. When you meet people that are in the “know”, be sure to ask them if there are any WhatsApp groups that they can invite you to. Getting invited to just a few of these groups will give you the opportunity to be in the midst of more activities than you can handle and in front of many potential new besties.
WANDER. Exploring your new surroundings is a great way to meet new people and make new friends. Take some time to wander around the streets and check out local attractions. Walking your neighborhood is key, but don’t stop there. If there is a bus, trolley or subway system, go and explore when you’re ready and if it feels safe. You never know who you might run into!
Exploring your new environment presents a marvelous opportunity to encounter fascinating individuals and build meaningful connections. Allow yourself the pleasure of strolling through the streets, immersing in the local ambiance, and discovering nearby attractions. While discovering your immediate neighborhood is crucial, I encourage you not to limit your wanderings solely to its confines. Should a bus, trolley, or subway system show itself, go for it. After all, you never know who might cross your path during these excursions!
GET ONLINE. Social media holds the key to unlocking a gateway of friendships in an unchartered place. Joining local groups on Facebook, Twitter, or other social networks can become your passport to a colorful tapestry of human connection. Making friends in a foreign country can be a whimsical dance of challenge and reward. But with the right attitude and approach, you’ll be able to make lasting connections and create wonderful memories. Let social media be your compass, leading you to friendships that transcend borders and create a symphony of wonder.
GIVE BACK. Engaging in volunteer work allows you once again to kill two birds with one stone. Not only do you contribute positively to a cause, it’s incredibly rewarding, and take a guess at who might be volunteering alongside you? You got it!
BE SEEN. If you’re in a line or pass someone on the street who may be an expat or someone you’d like to know, go for it - start a conversation! Remember that your behavior needs to change in order for this friend thing to happen. If you’re normally a fairly reserved person who keeps to yourself (this was me), this will be where you may need to step out of that box.
CONNECT WITH THE LOCALS!!! There's something truly special about immersing yourself in a new culture and opening your heart to the people who call that land home. These individuals, with their unique perspectives and rich experiences, have the power to become some of the dearest friends you'll ever make in your life.
I have begun to make a few close friends in Mexico City and so far Mexicans are some of warmest, genuine and most helpful humans I have encountered. Two of my Mexican friends I call sisters, a title that I covet and these ladies have a very special place in my heart.
Local citizens provide a perspective about your new home that you cannot possibly understand unless they share it with you. So, as you navigate the labyrinth of cultural nuances and unfamiliar customs, their guidance becomes an invaluable compass. They introduce you to hidden gems, from tucked-away local hangouts to secret spots that only the true insiders know. So, do not shy away from these friendships. Embrace them wholeheartedly. They hold the promise of deep connections, unexpected adventures, and a tapestry of shared memories that will forever be etched in the story of your life.
You will likely find that you end up with a more vibrant and active social life than the one you left behind. With the right attitude and approach, you’ll be able to make lasting connections and create wonderful memories that last a lifetime.
